By keeping their lives in order this means getting up, dressing up and showing up for life.

That includes going to work, caring for your children and your home and paying the bills. Doing all of this keeps you in charge of the things that are within your control, even when things that aren’t are knocking on your door.
Staying empowered by making good choices instead of excuses is what makes you strong.
Knowing you can count on yourself and that other people compliment you and don’t complete you is strength.
Giving a shit about what’s most important makes you strong.
Whining and complaining is not strength.
Neglecting your responsibilities is not strength.
Taking steps toward improvements, even small ones is strength.
Telling everyone how bad ass you are is not strength, that’s ego. Proving how bad ass you are by doing your best in all things is strength.
Finding joy where you are, wherever that is, is strength.
Asking for and graciously accepting help when you need it is strength. Pride, is not strength.

I’ve stood in the shower and cried my eyes out for fifteen minutes when I’m scared or feel like I can’t make it through another day of craziness. I’ve screamed at the top of my lungs in my truck while driving to work when I’m angry. Hell, I’ve even punched my pillows to death but giving up has never been an option for me. I have too many people depending on me, including myself.
Thankfully, I’ve learned just sitting quietly or getting lost in my writing helps me find my center and relieves any anxiety I’ve built up in the course of a day.

Ranting, raving and venting only release all of that negative energy into the world and keep the stresses close to you and just drag those around you down.
Yes, I still cry, scream and get angry. I’m human. I’m a work in progress and thankfully, I don’t do those things anywhere near as often as I used to out of frustration, even though some days I feel I’m provoked to the point of madness.
If I let go even a little bit, EVERYONE and EVERYTHING I’ve worked so hard my whole life for will unravel

Strength is believing in yourself. I believe.

Sometimes Television Commercials Aren’t for Bathroom Breaks


Yesterday, I saw the picture above on someone’s Facebook timeline and immediately shared it. As a female child, I was never discouraged from doing anything I wanted to do. I was encouraged to try different things, explore my imagination and even pushed a little when a natural aptitude emerged.

Not all female children are so fortunate.

This morning, a friend of mine tagged me in this video and it spoke to me in so many ways.

Can we stop teaching our female children how to be “girls” and just allow them to be who they’re meant to be?

When my only daughter was about three years old, she was obsessed with fire trucks and Tonka trucks. She had three large fire engines, including her favorite, the hook and ladder. She didn’t grow up to be a fire fighter or a dump truck operator but we never discouraged her interests. I was guilty on occasion of the “don’t get dirty” and “put that down before you hurt yourself” talk but luckily, she was as stubborn as I am and got plenty dirty anyway.

Sometimes commercials don’t suck. Sometimes they’re worth holding your water for.

Thumbs up Verizon.