Sometimes…it’s not the song…

The other day whilst driving from work, I heard a song that took me back twenty five years or more and I got a tear in my eye. Not because the song is sad but because I miss my sister Sheila so much it hurts.
She was like a bright shining sun that could warm you with love and yet burn you to a crisp if you crossed her.
Struck down in the prime of her life by cancer.

The song is, “I Want To Know What Love Is,” and the memory has nothing to do with the lyrics but with the fact that my sister was notorious for changing the words when she sang them.
We were out one snowy Friday evening for a few drinks and lots of dancing together in Baltimore and she didn’t like to drive in the snow. I was designated driver so I enjoyed watching her having fun as always.

Sheila and Me

Not sure what I was wearing for this outing but hey, the 80’s..don’t hate. I’m on the right.

On our way home rather late, in my little Chevy Chavette, that song was on the radio. I chose a road less traveled. It’s a two lane road that I take to and from work everyday. The same road where I heard the song,
My Chavette drove beautifully in the snow. I don’t know why but it did and since there was no other traffic, as my sister sang at the top of her lungs, “I want to go where love is…” I drove, weaving down the road, crossing the invisible center line at 2:00AM, making beautiful waves in the freshly fallen snow. In my rear view mirrow, I could see the wavy pattern. It was lovely and strange and sparkling in the glow of the road lights.

Just Sheila and I in my little silver Chavette. She’d be so proud of me. What I wouldn’t give for one more night, driving on a deserted road through the snow listening to her sing that song.


Is there a song that does this to you? Tell me about it.

Every Inch of You is Perfect From the Bottom to the Top

I’ve been hearing this adorable and catchy tune on the radio all week so I just went and looked it up and here it is.

Now, here’s an interesting subject for discussion: Do you believe that this amazingly talented young woman is sending a positive body image message or is she doing what is being called by some of the posts on YouTube as “Skinny shaming?”

Here’s my opinion…It’s just a damn song.

BUT…I’ve been all about that bass my whole life so yes, I believe it’s an awesome message for women of all sizes and ages. I think some naturally thin women are missing the point here. This isn’t about attacking you for being thin. This about the artificial, photo-shopped, supermodel image that none of us can live up to…even naturally thin women which is why there are several naturally thin women in this video. The woman wrapped in plastic wrap in the video is a “symbol” of that image. She is not disrespecting thin women. She is calling out and shutting down the standard that ALL WOMEN should look that way.

As far as the “Skinny Bitches” reference, that is to the guys who refuse to date thicker women for the singular reason that they are, thicker. I’ve been there and yes, I’ve told at least one guy in my life, “You only date skinny bitches, right?”

The only “THIN” we should be worried about is how thin our skin is getting. I can hardly stand it anymore. Get over yourselves and stop taking everything so damn seriously.

Oh and she reminds me of my son’s girlfriend too so that’s another reason I like her! 🙂