10 Things I Wish I Knew About Being an Author

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  1. Unless you’re already famous for something else; rock star, movie actor, professional athlete—you most likely will not sell a million copies of your book—your first book let’s say. For Joe Shmo and P.S. Bartlett and many other authors, being successful takes a good deal of time, good marketing and a great support base. If you’re hoping to get rich quick by being a writer, you may want to get that record deal or Lakers contract first.

  2. You have to have either a very good memory or be incredibly organized. Between scheduling writing time, writing your blog, tweeting, running contests, Facebook pages, email addresses, writing your book and not to mention holding down a full time job, keeping house, cooking, cleaning and keeping your significant other from leaving you due to you forgetting not only their birthday but their name, you may have time to pee and walk the cat—I mean dog.

  3. It can be a very lonely career. Writers need a lot of solitary time to write. I’ll admit, I’ve been writing and someone will come into the room and most often they will ask that all too important question, “Are you writing?” but occasionally the matter is important to them. Forgive them because they don’t realize you’re right in the middle of taking down an army of giant trolls and when you read back over what you wrote later, try not to get upset with them when your troll has forgotten to do their homework and needs an excuse note for their teacher or they’ve set the kitchen on fire.

  4. People want your swag. If you’re not an author and you’re reading this, no, they do not want your lovely new curtains, they want goodies that show off your books. There is a bit of an investment involved but it’s oh so worth when your fans want something special to go with their books. Bookmarks, buttons, charms and t-shirts make great swag but always remember your fans love your books and they are going to want some swag so you better have it ready.

  5. Getting published is as easy as 1, 2, 3 (and other fairy tales). There are literally millions of books on Amazon alone—go look if you don’t believe me. Looks pretty simple doesn’t it? (I’ll be right back I’m rolling on the floor laughing). Even if you become frustrated with the process of querying agents and publishers and decide to self-publish your book, there are plenty of really nice and friendly people waiting in line to take your money and help you do just that—choose wisely. Do background checks if you have to but please be careful.

  6. Depending on which genre you write in, you must do your research. Nero didn’t smoke cigars—neither did pirates. I’ll bet you didn’t know that did you? Okay well even if you claim you did, do you have to be 100% historically accurate? Well yes, you should. Of course you can use your imagination to create new scenarios, for instance Abraham Lincoln as a vampire hunter but if old Abe whips out his iPod or says, “Hey, pass the Grey Poupon,” I’m sorry but your more experienced reader is gonna close the book on you.

  7. I didn’t know authors were zombies. I’ve learned to accomplish more things while half asleep than some people do wide awake—I think. Well I try.Okay I thought I did those things!

  8. Social networking is very important but don’t beg. If you’re a new author, currently writing your first novel or even thinking about it, you better have a Facebook, a Twitter, a Google+ and a blog at the very least or you are already way behind. The irony of all of this is under point number 3. I compare this lifestyle to living like a gopher. In the hole, out of the hole. In the hole, out of the hole. We hide and write and in the next breath, we stick our head out, make a bunch of really cool new friends, say hello to our fans and then run back in our holes. Please, just don’t bombard people with “Over here! Look at me! PLEASE look at me! WILL YOU FREAKING LOOK OVER HERE!!!” Build relationships. Support your fellow writers and above all, don’t steal their golf balls.

  9. Not everyone likes you and once you’re published, they may like you even less. As we strive to write that perfect, wonderful book that of course everyone wants to read and it miraculously gets published and we’re deliriously happy and sharing our happiness with anyone who will listen on every social media site and at every cocktail party or barbeque we attend, there is someone or someones lurking and guess what—they don’t like you, never did and they’ll be mean to you. They’ll give you anonymous bad reviews or say not so nice things about your book—since it is of course the source of your happiness. The answer to this is very simple. Write them into your next novel and kill them. Done.

  10. People will like you and they’ll love your book. The most incredible feeling you get when your book is published and you start receiving feedback from complete strangers as to how good or even great it is will blow you away. Besides the birth of my children and grandchildren, giving birth to my first novel and holding it in my hands for the first time was nothing short of euphoria. Within its pages or gigabytes lies your blood, sweat and tears. It’s an asexual reproduction of your deepest thoughts and your wildest dreams, and you don’t need an epidural or puff puff blow to bring it into the world—however, a little shot of tequila or in my case RumChata to welcome its arrival never hurt anybody.

Did Ya Miss Me? I Was Off and Running Again ~ #Vacation Time

Since we scored a very nice condo for a steal for four days, this poor, (and I do mean poor!) struggling author was able to afford a nice little long weekend getaway in Ocean City, MD. I cannot remember exactly how many times I’ve been to this place but we’re talking about ME and the OCEAN so does it even matter?

Here are some highlights:

Bay bridge

This is the Chesapeake Bay Bridge that connects the Eastern Shore of Maryland to the Western Shore where I live. Unless you want to drive 100 miles out of your way, there is no way to avoid this bridge. Get used to it. We all do.

 

Our cheap but swanky little pad for the weekend. Okay so not swanky but super cute, cozy and homey.

Our cheap but swanky little pad for the weekend. Okay so not swanky but super cute, cozy and homey.

Ahhhh at last!

Ahhhh at last!

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Sweet little lunch on the balcony prepared by men in swim trunks.

Sweet little lunch on the balcony prepared by men in swim trunks.

Sister in law from heaven...she knows all about vacations.

Sister in law from heaven…she knows all about vacations.

Very important supplies!

Very important supplies! Nothing but the best for us…lol It was so good too!

Yours truly ready to party!

Yours truly ready to party!

Beautiful evening with friends on the Chesapeake Bay at Seacrets.

Beautiful evening with friends on the Chesapeake Bay at Seacrets.

I SWEAR there was food too and I highly recommend the smoked tuna...to die for!

I SWEAR there was food too and I highly recommend the smoked tuna…to die for!

beach ready

Ready for the beach baby! Sorry, no full length mirror so the balcony door had to do.

Barn 34

Breakfast! Poached eggs with sauteed spinach, fresh tomatoes and avacados at a new favorite place, Barn 34! A bit pricey but the food was excellent!

breakfast

Breakfast was also provided by room service…aka my brother in law Bill. Even better because it was included in the price of our room and we didn’t have to dress up and go out to eat it! Pancakes, western omelets and country fried potatoes!

sky shot

Spectacular sunsets every night…those are free.

sunset on the bay

Here I am again, ready for a fun evening! Tonight, all you can eat steamed crabs at the Crab Bag!

Here I am again, ready for a fun evening! Tonight, all you can eat steamed crabs at the Crab Bag! They had to roll me out of there!

the fog

The view from our balcony at about 6:45am on May 30th.

 

after the fog

Same view an our later. Hello Atlantic Ocean my love!

Yeah...this place. The oldest bar in Ocean City, MD. Mainly locals only. Most pro basketball players cannot come here unless they sit down the entire time. It was a blast and the beers were cheap!

Yeah…this place. The oldest bar in Ocean City, MD. Mainly locals only. Most pro basketball players cannot come here unless they sit down the entire time. It was a blast and the beers were cheap!

Marina

Directly across the street from the Harbor Inn.

Harbor Inn

 

Coming Home

All wonderful things must come to an end. Hello Maryland traffic. Back to the real world. 😦

 

 

 

It Is Hard To Be A #Woman

All of these things apply if you LET them. I choose to be the woman I WANT to be and so far I’m doing a damn fine job of doing it MY way.

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If believing in myself is thinking like a man, then I agree.
If acting like a lady means I have manners, respect for others and class, then yes, I act like a lady.
If looking like a young girl means I smile a lot and my spirit shines through then yes, I look like a young girl.
I’ll admit I do work like a horse but it’s because I want to.